Sometimes a relationship fractures and seems impossible to repair. But Judaism encourages forgiveness under certain circumstances. Such forgiveness can lead to a relationship “re-boot.” This is exactly what happened with my husband and his mother.
My daughter, Alexis, had a magical time on her Birthright trip. She was so grateful to make Aliyah and felt renewed pride in being Jewish. However, Alexis worried she might never again experience this union with God. Rabbi Yosi, the Orthodox rabbi who helped run the trip, told her not to worry. She had made Aliyah and could connect with God in any moment through her heart.
Everyone deserves to be treated with respect. Unfortunately, it is too easy to ignore and/or judge those who have fallen on tough times. We should avoid building a mental barrier. I learned this lesson at a homeless shelter.
Not every immigrant found success in the United States. My great-grandfather never found his way. But despite his struggles, he taught my grandmother an important lesson about finding God.
My family lost a man we adored. We knew he was honest, honorable and kind. But people’s words at the shiva proved there is a difference between being good and doing good.
“The past should be a springboard, not a hammock.” (No, I did not write it, but I love it!) I continually remind myself not to wallow in the past. But how can we use the past to inspire our future? My grandmother and great-aunt had differing opinions.
Why do we feel an act of kindness only has merit when it is super-sized? Can’t we appreciate small mitzvahs? My grandfather came to this country with nothing. His determination to bring his family from Russia led to success and frustration. But his mother believed every mitzvah had worth and could become a springboard to greatness.